posted on August 29, 2017
Unfortunately, bullying is a fact of life at school and, in some cases, into adulthood. What do you think of when you hear the word bullying? I know I thought bullying consisted of name – calling, exclusion, and physical abuse. As it turns out there are 8 types / categories of bullying that manifest more or less predominately at different stages. For example, a study on prevneet.com showed that physical bullying is more likely to occur during elementary school, where as social and cyber bullying are more prevalent during high school.
Different types of bullying can affect people in different ways and for different time periods. For instance, physical bullying takes on a more immediate affect and is more noticeable by teachers and parents, making it easier to intervene. On the other hand, social isolation, rumour starting, or name calling might not be as noticeably damaging but they can cause long lasting psychological, and emotional damage that will last well into adulthood; as these types of bullying target a person’s self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth.
Below is a list of the 8 categories of bullying and by clicking here you can see an in-depth definition complete with examples of each.
- Physical Bullying
- Verbal Bullying
- Social Bullying
- Electronic or Cyber Bullying
- Racial Bullying
- Religious Bullying
- Sexual Bullying
- Disability Bullying
Knowing the types of bullying is only part of the issue; it is also important to know the signs that you/someone is being bullied. In order to understand and pick up the signs of bullying you have to understand how bullying affects both the bullied and the bully. Bullying is a power dynamic affecting emotional and relational aspects of the person being bullied and the bully alike.
Someone who is being bullied will have a different emotional and relational response to the situation than his/her bully will. For example, a person who is being bullied may seem afraid to go to school and other activities and / or may seem anxious / fearful. There may be relationships in the bullied person’s life that facilitate them becoming a target. In some cases those targeted by bullying have been known to have overprotective / restrictive parents and become lonely and isolated at school. It is important to note that one sign does not lead to another or cause another and not all people will display the same signs.
In many cases the person being bullied is the entire focus of parents, teachers, counsellors, etc. and the bully himself/herself is usually only chastised not analyzed. There are emotional and relational factors that are common among those that become bullies. In many cases a bully tends to be bossy or manipulative in his/her behaviour. Where not always a direct cause, many bullies have been reported as having parents who model the use o power and aggression. Parents are not the sole catalyst in creating a bully but they must remember that young minds are impressionable and interactions between eachother can have a ‘monkey – see – monkey do’ affect on children. causing them to act out.
For a more comprehensive list of emotional and relationship signs of bullying click here
Like the signs of bullying the dangers of bullying affect the bullied and bully alike. Someone who is being bullied may experience a range of dangers from; stress related illness (headache or stomach ache) to the contemplation, attempt or successful suicide. The bully on the other hand can experience such dangers as substance use and delinquency to gang involvement and criminal activity that continues into adulthood.
For more information on other dangers, for the bullied and the bully, click here
The most important difference that prevent.com brings to their research, that other anti bullying campaigns miss, is they explain the types of bullying, the signs of bullying, and the dangers of bullying in an unbiased comprehensive way that gives information to prevent, stop, and understand bullying from both sides (bullied and bully).
I am sure the parents in the audience are finding this fascinating but want to know how they can help their children. The list of links below goes through what parents can do at different stages of their child’s life:
- Parents of Pre-school children
- Parents of Elementary school children
- Parents of Adolescent children
- Parents of Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered or Questioning youth
- What Parents need to know about Cyber Bullying
- Questions to ask when talking to your child’s school
For more bullying information and interventions click here
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