Ending Repeated Conflicts in Your Relationships
If you’re having an argument with a loved one, it’s most likely that you will do the exact opposite of what you should be doing to resolve the conflict. “Instead of repeating old destructive relationship patterns, you can learn how to end recurring conflict so that the trust is restored between the two of you”.
Some communication tips on how to end repeated conflicts are listed below.
Ask vs. Tell
Rather than saying, “You should really do __________…” try, “How can I support you in getting this done?”
Own vs. Divert
When we’re feeling defensive, we tend to want to divert blame away from ourselves, and often onto our partner.
And Vs. But
When you say things like, “I love you but I need some time to myself right now” what your partner actually hears is, “I don’t really love you.”
It will take time to use these tips effectively. They can work in all relationships in your life, not just romantic ones. To read about the above tips in more detail, you can read this article.
