How do I explain to my loved ones that expect me to have children that I would rather focus on my career?

How do I explain to my loved ones that expect me to have children that I would rather focus on my career?

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    1. Sara White says:

      Hi Laura,

      This is a very common issue that I think a lot of people, especially women, tend to face with their families. There tends to be an expectation on women, specifically, to become mothers and start families, however, that isn’t always what that person wants for themselves. So I hear you in regards to this being a sensitive and difficult topic to broach with family.

      I think boundaries are a really important piece of this conversation in terms of the topic of children being a very personal subject and having those children being a decision that should be made between partners, without the influence of family or other loved ones. Letting your family know that what is important and makes you happy right now (your career) and that you are not ready to take a step back from that part of your life now (or possibly ever) to cater to children may help them to understand or respect your decision.

      Try to find other support systems that you can confide in and discuss this topic with as well. Friends who have similar goals, or who understand your desire to focus on your career right now, that may validate you in this decision.