Co-Parenting - Separation & Divorce

The decision to end a marriage or partnership can be a very difficult one, particularly if there are children involved. Deciding on who’s primary care the children will be under, where they will live, working out parenting arrangements, and financial support for children are all issues that need to be addressed, and there is not a one-size-fits all solution for all families. Co-parenting refers to an arrangement where both parents work together and are involved in raising child/children, even though they are separated or divorced. Some parents are able to come to co-parenting agreements on their own in an amicable way.  A lawyer or mediator can also help with a parenting, custody, and access plan, and there are Provincial Family Laws in place that outline caring for children, including custody, access, and financial support. Are you newly deciding to seek a divorce, and want some insight and advice on how to set up a co-parenting arrangement? Would you like to connect with other co-parenting couples, to share ideas and find out what has worked best for their families? Do you have questions about co-parenting agreements? We know you have a lot of questions. And we can help.

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Parenting Apart

How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids

The ultimate resource for separated and divorced parents, written by an internationally acclaimed expert on divorce and its impact on children. This comprehensive and empowering guide is filled with practical, effective ways to minimize the effects of divorce on children, and offers immediate solutions to the most critical parenting problems divorce brings. In this go-to resource, Christina McGhee addresses the issues of utmost importance to parents: ? How and when to tell the children about the divorce ? Guiding children through transition ?Helping children cope with having two homes ?Dealing with finances ?Managing a difficult relationship with an ex ?And more Offering advice on explaining things to every age group-from toddlers to teenagers-in plain, consistent, and age-appropriate terms, Parenting Apart also offers practical suggestions for parents to help them maintain their own sense of stability and take care of their own well-being while taking care of their kids.

The Co-Parents Handbook

Raising Well-Adjusted and Resilient Kids From Little Once to Young Adults Through Divorce Or Separation

When it comes to a child's sense of family, what divorce breaks apart, solid co-parenting rebuilds. With a tested "here's how" approach, The Co-Parents' Handbook helps parents confidently take on the challenges of raising children in two homes. Addressing parents' questions about the emotional impact of separation, conflict, grief and recovery, the authors skillfully provide a road map for all members of the family to safely navigate through separation/divorce and beyond. Parents discover through practical guidance how to move from angry/hurt partners to constructive, successful co-parents. The pages are chock-full of helpful strategies to resolve day-to-day issues in an easy-to use format.

Co-parenting 101

Helping Your Kids Thrive in Two Households after Divorce

A successful co-parenting relationship is as vital to your child's well-being and health as nutritious food or proper exercise. Research, anecdotal evidence, and plain common sense all point to the fact that children are happier, healthier, and better adjusted when both of their parents play an active role in their lives. Studies also show that the trauma children experience in the wake of a divorce or separation can be lessened when they see their parents getting along. Kids whose parents successfully co-parent feel more secure than those who have limited or no connection to one of their parents post divorce. Co-Parenting 101 is based on the premise that co-parenting is a must, not an option. The involvement of both parents—not just the primary guardian—is the cornerstone of successful co-parenting. This is the first book written by a formerly married couple for whom co parenting is central to their day to day lives, and it offers a comprehensive, personal, and upfront look at how to effectively raise kids with an ex-spouse. Authors Deesha Philyaw and Michael D. Thomas, the creators of the popular co-parenting website, co-parenting101.org, share their own experiences raising their children together, as well as provide professional advice from co-parenting experts. Through practical tips combined with expert parental strategies, this book a great resource for divorced parents with children. For parents, less time stressed out about legal wrangling means more time to be fully present and engaged with the children. By learning to put their animosity aside, parents can focus on putting their kids first.

Parents Working Together After Divorce and Separation

A Co-Parenting Journal

Communication is a key part of healthy co-parenting. With more than 130 journal entry pages, the Co-Parenting Journal will help you and your child's other parent stay informed about everything that is important to raising happy and healthy kids together after your divorce or separation. Completed by each parent during their parenting time and passed at transitions to the other home, the Co-Parenting Journal documents: * The children's mood and behavior during the parenting time * Important events that occurred that the other parent needs to know about * Information necessary for a smooth transition to the other parent's home * Anything you need to talk to your co-parent about and how and when you would like to communicate * Upcoming events and appointments Your children deserve the best you and their other parent can give to them. Use the Co-Parenting Journal to help you communicate and work together when communication can be difficult.

Parenting After Divorce

Resolving Conflicts and Meeting Your Children's Needs

Presenting a perspective on divorce and how it affects children, this guide includes chapters on how conflicts affect your child, it's time for a truce, parenting plans, dealing with special problems, and what your child really thinks.

Co-Parenting from the Inside Out

Voices of Moms and Dads

Karen L. Kristjanson shares the stories of a variety of divorced and separated couples who co-parent. Effective co-parenting, or sharing significant parenting time with an ex-spouse, is one of the best gifts separated parents can give to their children. The interviews in Co-Parenting from the Inside Out are with real moms and dads in diverse circumstances, showing them making choices, sometimes struggling, and often growing. Their stories offer insights into wise decision-making, as well as practical strategies that strengthen families. Parents can see that they are not alone as they navigate their feelings and build a future. While pain exists in most stories, there is also hope. Co-parents often feel that they have become more confident and compassionate, and parent better than before. The effects of their personal growth and their children’s are the silver lining in the dark pain of divorce. Karen L. Kristjanson has brought together real life co-parenting stories that inspire separated parents and help them understand co-parenting better, offering practical tips and tools that directly benefit families.

Good Parenting Through Your Divorce

The Essential Guidebook to Helping Your Children Adjust and Thrive Based on the Leading National Pro

Divorce has become a way of life. One million couples dissolve their unions every year, profoundly affecting millions of children. While divorce can have many negative consequences, it need not be a disaster for children. For nearly twenty years, the Kids' Turn workshop program has been helping parents and children identify and cope with separation and divorce issues. Good Parenting Through Your Divorce distills Kids' Turn wisdom for individual readers, presenting key topics that concern all parents and their children throughout the divorce and beyond, including: How to recognize, cultivate, and respond to your child's feelings How divorce affects your child's development How to support your child's expressive self The challenge of behavior and discipline The dos and don'ts of shared parenting Understanding and managing negative reactions Guidelines for developing positive emotional habits How to manage communication with your co-parent An essential, comprehensive guide for parents, Good Parenting Through Your Divorce helps you help your children adjust to a new family arrangement. Chapters on childhood development, discipline, healthy communication, and how to move forward make this a user-friendly, complete treatment of a common but challenging experience.

Mindful Co-Parenting: a Child-Friendly Path Through Divorce

Being good parents is hard even when you're happily married, but for separated or divorced couples, parenting can be particularly daunting. There is hope. Mindful Co-Parenting provides divorced parents a practical way through the process that protects their children. In this compact, step-by-step guide, written in a supportive yet direct style, clinical psychologists Jeremy S. Gaies, Psy.D., and James B. Morris Jr., Ph.D., identify what matters most to kids and describe the importance of parents being mindful of their children's needs and wants. Starting with the question of whether or not divorce is the best option for your family, the book walks you through the process, from choosing the most child-friendly divorce proceedings, to navigating co-parenting after the papers are signed, to handling the future challenges of stepparenting and other issues that may arise. By simply paying attention and planning ahead, you and your ex can reduce the potential negative effects of divorce on your family. Learn how to create a comprehensive parenting plan that can begin to establish a new norm for the benefit of your family's new future.

Hope For the Separated

Wounded Marriages Can Be Healed

The unfortunate reality is that Christians are separating and divorcing at the same rate as the unbelieving world. But does separation have to mean the end? You may not feel like reconciling. You may not see hope for a reunion. But the biblical ideal for a separated couple is reconciliation. So how do you do it? When doors slam and angry words fly, when things just aren't working out, and even when your spouse has abandoned your trust, there is hope. Hope for the Separated will show you through God's Word that your marriage can be restored. Recognizing that restoration will not happen for everyone, Dr. Chapman also gives insightful advice for those who experience the pain of divorce.

Coparenting Relationships and Parenting Styles After Divorce Or Separation

Factors Predicting Adolescents' Adjustment

The 7 Fatal Mistakes Divorced and Separated Parents Make:

Strategies for Raising Healthy Children of Divorce and Conflict

This book is a crucial resource for families that are divorced, separated, considering divorce or that have never been married who want to raise the healthiest children possible. Inside you will find practical strategies and more than 35 exercises to assist you in being the best parent possible during this difficult time for your family. This book provides guidelines and strategies that will assist you in minimizing the impact of your circumstances on your child. You deserve to read this book and your child deserves a parent who reads this book. Shannon Rios reviewed 50 other books to write this book and has worked with 1000s of families over the last 12 years. She teaches the state mandated course "Coparenting After Divorce" for three counties in Colorado and previously taught in MN. In the book, Shannon shares many stories and insights from her own experience growing up in a family of conflict.

Mom's House, Dad's House

Internationally renowned therapist, family expert and mediator Isolina Ricci, Ph.D. presents this definitive and newly updated guide to divorce and making shared custody work for parents and children. The ground-breaking classic, Mom’s House, Dad’s House, has become the standard for two generations of divorcing parents, and includes examples, self-tests, checklists, tools, and guidelines to help separated moms and dads with the legal, emotional, and financial issues they will encounter as they work to create happy and stable homes. This comprehensive guide looks anew at the needs of all family members with creative options and common-sense advice, including: * The map to a “decent divorce” and two happy homes * Helping children of divorce with age-specific advice * Negotiating Parental Agreements and custody arrangements * Breaking away from “negative intimacy” with a difficult ex-husband or ex-wife * Sidestepping destructive myths about divorce (and marriage) * Handling long-distance parenting and parenting alone With Mom’s House, Dad’s House, parents will learn how to help their children heal and find a sense of continuity, security, and stability throughout the divorce process and in any custody situation.

Roman Catholic Diocese of Hamilton (The) - Levels Separation and Divorce Support Program

Self-help groups available for Catholics who are separated, divorced or widowed.

Mediation Centre of Hamilton

Offers comprehensive family mediation services to families experiencing separation, divorce and remarriage. Referral can be made by individuals involved, lawyers, the court, or agencies. Also provides child protection mediation for families involved with a Children's Aid Society. Also provides elder mediation services assisting families with challenges such as working out a plan of care for a elderly parent or addressing estate disputes.

Dr. Bob Kemp Hospice - Supportive Care

The program offer compassionate, non-judgemental bereavement support, to individuals and families experiencing loss.

Ontario. Ministry of the Attorney General, Court Services - Mandatory Information Programs (MIPs) - Hamilton Central - 151 York Blvd

Designed to ensure that parties starting a court application or bringing a motion to change are provided with upfront information to help the parties make informed decisions about the next steps in the parties’ family law case. Programs are managed by local family mediation and information service providers. In Hamilton the provider is AXIS Family Mediation Inc.

Ontario. Ministry of the Attorney General, Court Services - On-Site Mediation Services - Hamilton Central - Family Court

Family mediation is a form of dispute resolution where a neutral third party, called a mediator, assists the disputing parties to reach an informed and voluntary agreement on issues such as how to separate, parenting plans, and child and spousal support.

* Available on-site at Family Court for parties on the day of their first appearance, case or settlement or trial management conference, or motion.
* Off-site mediation is also available for parties who need more time or who don't have court proceedings started. Contact us for more information.

Women's Centre of Halton (The) - Support Groups and Workshops - Oakville

Provides various support groups for women in crisis, distress or transition to effect positive change

Assertiveness Training:
* learn how to ask for and receive the things you want from life
* practice communication skills to be more assertive at work, in relationships and other areas of your life

Self-awareness group:
* participants learn how to identify harmful patterns and develop skills to improve relationships by communicating their needs more effectively without guilt, shame or fear

Depression and anxiety support group:
* come together with other women and learn tools to help cope with depression and anxiety

Self-esteem Series:
* focuses on making positive changes and facing challenges head on
* provides the opportunity to foster friendships, build confidence and promote positive thinking

Separation and Divorce:
* walks participants through the emotional stages of separating and divorcing an intimate partner (grief, anger, devastation)
in a safe, supportive caring group environment
* a chance to share concerns and connect with other women

Divorce Financial workshop:
* a divorce financial analyst discusses financial mistakes women can avoid
* topics include selling or keeping your home, support payments, income tax, banking and credit

Family Law 101:
* one day seminar introducing the basics of Family law and covering everything women need to know about separation and divorce
* topics include property division, spousal support, child custody and access, separation agreements and child support

Stress reduction:
* helps participants manage their stress and teaches strategies to work through the challenges of everyday life

Coffee and conversation:
* join the group for lighthearted conversation and snacks

Self care:
* a monthly drop-in workshop for participants to learn ways to practice self care in the midst of all of the chaos

Women's Centre of Halton (The) - Support Groups and Workshops - Oakville

Provides various support groups for women in crisis, distress or transition to effect positive change

Assertiveness Training:
* learn how to ask for and receive the things you want from life
* practice communication skills to be more assertive at work, in relationships and other areas of your life

Self-awareness group:
* participants learn how to identify harmful patterns and develop skills to improve relationships by communicating their needs more effectively without guilt, shame or fear

Depression and anxiety support group:
* come together with other women and learn tools to help cope with depression and anxiety

Self-esteem Series:
* focuses on making positive changes and facing challenges head on
* provides the opportunity to foster friendships, build confidence and promote positive thinking

Separation and Divorce:
* walks participants through the emotional stages of separating and divorcing an intimate partner (grief, anger, devastation)
in a safe, supportive caring group environment
* a chance to share concerns and connect with other women

Divorce Financial workshop:
* a divorce financial analyst discusses financial mistakes women can avoid
* topics include selling or keeping your home, support payments, income tax, banking and credit

Family Law 101:
* one day seminar introducing the basics of Family law and covering everything women need to know about separation and divorce
* topics include property division, spousal support, child custody and access, separation agreements and child support

Stress reduction:
* helps participants manage their stress and teaches strategies to work through the challenges of everyday life

Coffee and conversation:
* join the group for lighthearted conversation and snacks

Self care:
* a monthly drop-in workshop for participants to learn ways to practice self care in the midst of all of the chaos

Roman Catholic Diocese of Hamilton (The) - Family Ministry Office

Offers support and encourages growth in family relationships primarily through education and self-help with a variety of volunteer-supported programs.

Women's Centre of Halton (The) - Support Groups and Workshops - Oakville

Provides various support groups for women in crisis, distress or transition to effect positive change

Assertiveness Training:
* learn how to ask for and receive the things you want from life
* practice communication skills to be more assertive at work, in relationships and other areas of your life

Self-awareness group:
* participants learn how to identify harmful patterns and develop skills to improve relationships by communicating their needs more effectively without guilt, shame or fear

Depression and anxiety support group:
* come together with other women and learn tools to help cope with depression and anxiety

Self-esteem Series:
* focuses on making positive changes and facing challenges head on
* provides the opportunity to foster friendships, build confidence and promote positive thinking

Separation and Divorce:
* walks participants through the emotional stages of separating and divorcing an intimate partner (grief, anger, devastation)
in a safe, supportive caring group environment
* a chance to share concerns and connect with other women

Divorce Financial workshop:
* a divorce financial analyst discusses financial mistakes women can avoid
* topics include selling or keeping your home, support payments, income tax, banking and credit

Family Law 101:
* one day seminar introducing the basics of Family law and covering everything women need to know about separation and divorce
* topics include property division, spousal support, child custody and access, separation agreements and child support

Stress reduction:
* helps participants manage their stress and teaches strategies to work through the challenges of everyday life

Coffee and conversation:
* join the group for lighthearted conversation and snacks

Self care:
* a monthly drop-in workshop for participants to learn ways to practice self care in the midst of all of the chaos

Women's Centre of Halton (The) - Support Groups and Workshops - Oakville

Provides various support groups for women in crisis, distress or transition to effect positive change

Assertiveness Training:
* learn how to ask for and receive the things you want from life
* practice communication skills to be more assertive at work, in relationships and other areas of your life

Self-awareness group:
* participants learn how to identify harmful patterns and develop skills to improve relationships by communicating their needs more effectively without guilt, shame or fear

Depression and anxiety support group:
* come together with other women and learn tools to help cope with depression and anxiety

Self-esteem Series:
* focuses on making positive changes and facing challenges head on
* provides the opportunity to foster friendships, build confidence and promote positive thinking

Separation and Divorce:
* walks participants through the emotional stages of separating and divorcing an intimate partner (grief, anger, devastation)
in a safe, supportive caring group environment
* a chance to share concerns and connect with other women

Divorce Financial workshop:
* a divorce financial analyst discusses financial mistakes women can avoid
* topics include selling or keeping your home, support payments, income tax, banking and credit

Family Law 101:
* one day seminar introducing the basics of Family law and covering everything women need to know about separation and divorce
* topics include property division, spousal support, child custody and access, separation agreements and child support

Stress reduction:
* helps participants manage their stress and teaches strategies to work through the challenges of everyday life

Coffee and conversation:
* join the group for lighthearted conversation and snacks

Self care:
* a monthly drop-in workshop for participants to learn ways to practice self care in the midst of all of the chaos

Ontario. Ministry of the Attorney General, Court Services - Family Law Information Centre - Hamilton Central - Family Court

A drop-in service that provides legal and non-legal information, regarding family law issues, such as separation and divorce. Services include guides, procedures, information and referral services, Mandatory Information Program (MIP), court-connected mediation services (on-site and off-site) and an advice lawyer.

AXIS Family Mediation

Services include:
* court-based mediation (on-site), free to those on the day they are on court lists
* off-site mediation services (parenting plans, child support, spousal support, property issues), with fees set on a sliding scale
* information about local family law related services
* mandatory information programs
* family law mediation for divorce, separation, child custody and access, child and spousal support, property division
* alternate dispute resolution