Mental/Psychological Abuse

Abuse can take several forms, including mental, psychological or emotional abuse. It is a pattern of behaviour from one person to another and can take place in any setting or relationship. The abuser may be a spouse, parent, sibling, or extended family member. Often times, the abuser feels justified in their actions and is not concerned that the abuse will be reported. Mental abuse can range from subtle actions, such as name-calling, ignoring or excessively criticizing, to more severe actions such as threatening violence, abandonment, or threatening to withhold food or basic care that a person needs. Mental abuse may result in anxiety, depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder. Any form of mistreatment that results in mental, emotional or physical harm can be considered a form of abuse. Do you have concerns about mental abuse within your own family or that of a loved one? Or do you wish to report a friend whom you think may be in need of help or protection, but don’t know who to call? Or would you like to seek care and treatment following mental abuse? Kinjunxion is here to help with empathetic and understanding sources of support and information.

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Healing from Hidden Abuse

A JourneyThrough the Stages of Recovery from Psy Chological Abuse

Healing from Hidden Abuse takes the reader through the six stages of recovery that are necessary for individuals to find important answers to the life chaos they have experienced.

Psychological Abuse in Violent Domestic Relations


Coercive Control

The Entrapment of Women in Personal Life

Despite its great achievements, the domestic violence revolution is stalled, Evan Stark argues in this provocative and persuasive book. Interventions have failed to improve women's long-term safety in relationships or to hold perpetrators accountable, he shows, because the singular focus on physical violence against women masks an even more devastating reality. In millions of abusive relationships, men use a largely unidentified form of subjugation that more closely resembles kidnapping or indentured servitude than assault. He calls this pattern of manipulative behaviors coercive control.

Letting Go of Good

Dispel the Myth of Goodness to Find Your Genuine Self

“Mathews identifies a psychological pattern that largely goes unrecognized, but which is epidemic, and she offers sound, solid solutions. This very wise book deserves a wide reception.”—Larry Dossey, MD, author of One Mind Stop Being Good and Start Getting Real Rediscover your true self with Letting Go of Good, an empowering guide to dismantling the false connection between being good and being worthy. While exposing the dangers of the guilt-led life, practicing psychotherapist Andrea Mathews shares innovative tools and techniques for healing, including how to understand and dialogue with emotions, develop intuition and discernment, and make decisions from a place of honest desire and compassion. Featuring a foreword by Thomas Moore, author of Care of the Soul, this book provides the guidance you need to embrace the real, authentic you. With illuminating composite examples from Andrea’s clinical experience and a powerful exploration of the pathway to healing, Letting Go of Good presents a breakthrough approach to creating genuine relationships and awakening your true self to find peace. Praise: |“In this wonderful book, Andrea offers an important and insightful message for those seeking the next step in a life of freedom.”—Jonathan Ellerby, PhD, bestselling author of Return to the Sacred “This beautifully expressed book is a true gift for those many who feel lost or depressed about the celebration of life.”—Nancy Qualls-Corbett, PhD, author of The Sacred Prostitute: Eternal Aspects of the Feminine and Awakening Woman “Andrea Mathews not only understands the depths to which we go to remain in the human condition, but also the purity of the soul in that collaboration. Letting Go of Good: Dispel the Myth of Goodness to Find Your Genuine Self is a powerful bridge between the two, allowing the authentic self to emerge beyond the identity.”—Simran Singh, life mentor, award-winning author of Conversations with the Universe, and media creator for 11:11 Magazine

If He's So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad?

Recognizing and Overcoming Subtle Abuse

Foreword by Lois P. Frankel, Ph.D., New York Times bestselling author of Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office ARE YOU A VICTIM OF SUBTLE ABUSE? Are you always the one apologizing? Constantly questioning and blaming yourself? Do you often feel confused, frustrated, and angry? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you’re not alone. Nearly half of all women—and men—in the United States experience psychological abuse without realizing it. Manipulation, deception, and disrespect leave no physical scars, but they can be just as traumatic as physical abuse. In this groundbreaking book, Avery Neal, founder of the Women’s Therapy Clinic, helps you recognize the warning signs of subtle abuse. As you learn to identify patterns that have never made sense before, you are better equipped to make changes. From letting go of fear to setting boundaries, whether you’re gathering the courage to finally leave or learning how to guard against a chronically abusive pattern, If He’s So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad? will help you enjoy a happy, healthy, fulfilling life, free of shame or blame. “This book can open eyes for people who may have lost pieces of themselves along the way. Great examples and exercises. It is a companion from start to finish.” —Dr. Jay Carter, author of Nasty People “No-nonsense insights and practical ways to regain control of and empower your life.” —Dr. George Simon, author of In Sheep’s Clothing “The new gold standard in abuse recovery, allowing readers to break free from old patterns and reclaim their lives.” —Jackson MacKenzie, author of Psychopath Free “This insightful book can awaken self-esteem, save relationships, even save lives.” —Gavin de Becker, author of The Gift of Fear

Rethinking Domestic Violence

Rethinking Domestic Violence is the third in a series of books by Donald Dutton critically reviewing research in the area of intimate partner violence (IPV). The research crosses disciplinary lines, including social and clinical psychology, sociology, psychiatry, affective neuropsychology, criminology, and criminal justice research. Since the area of IPV is so heavily politicized, Dutton tries to steer through conflicting claims by assessing the best research methodology. As a result, he comes to some very new conclusions. These conclusions include the finding that IPV is better predicted by psychological rather than social-structural factors, particularly in cultures where there is relative gender equality. Dutton argues that personality disorders in either gender account for better data on IPV. His findings also contradict earlier views among researchers and policy makers that IPV is essentially perpetrated by males in all societies. Numerous studies are reviewed in arriving at these conclusions, many of which employ new and superior methodologies than were available previously. After twenty years of viewing IPV as generated by gender and focusing on a punitive "law and order" approach, Dutton argues that this approach must be more varied and flexible. Treatment providers, criminal justice system personnel, lawyers, and researchers have indicated the need for a new view of the problem -- one less invested in gender politics and more open to collaborative views and interdisciplinary insights. Dutton's rethinking of the fundamentals of IPV is essential reading for psychologists, policy makers, and those dealing with the sociology of social science, the relationship of psychology to law, and explanations of adverse behaviour.

Sexual Abuse in the Lives of Women Diagnosed withSerious Mental Illness

Although a substantial amount of media and professional attention has been devoted to the incidence of sexual abuse in the population at large, the plight of those who have suffered abuse and are seriously mentally ill has largely been ignored. Adding to the existing literature on trauma, this book exposes the prevalence of physical and emotional abuse among severely mentally ill patients, and includes case studies that reveal its tragic and devastating impact. Offering chapters on theory and assessment of abused women, this book explores services that are available to them, discusses treatment (including inpatient and cognitive-behavioral approaches), and addresses recommendations for the improvement of both policy and research.

The Way Out of Emotional Abuse

Learn the Signs of Mental Abuse and How to Stop It!

When in danger, it's okay to feel afraid This fear generates several split-second changes in the body to prepare for the "fight-or-flight" response- And that's healthy!Individuals who go through Psychological Abuse of all types somehow they neither fight or flight But Freeze, and Accept as if things will get better one day!?However, for many this day never shows up! In The Way Out of Emotional Abuse book, you will learn all about these psychological abuse signs and how to Get Out of ITHere are some of the critical things you will learn emotional abuse: What is REALLY emotional abuse? Understanding emotional abuse Types of emotional abuse Effects of emotional abuse Emotional Bullying Emotional Blackmail How to avoid being a victim of emotional blackmailing Verbal abuse Signs of verbal bullying The general effects of emotional bullying to their victims Psychological Abuse Knowing you are a victim of mental abuse How those around us can make us realize that we are psychologically injured Emotional Manipulation Signs that you are emotionally being manipulated The Way Out Of Emotional Abuse Emotional management Some of the important strategies to manage your strong negative emotions The types of therapy for emotional abuse

Identifying Emotional And Psychological Abuse: A Guide For Childcare Professionals

A Guide for Childcare Professionals

The principal objectives of this book are to enable childcare workers to understand and deal more effectively with cases of emotional and psychological abuse. The concepts of emotional development, emotional abuse, psychological development, and psychological abuse are fully explored and clearly defined, within the contexts of: Existing literature and research Childcare legislation and practice Child abuse enquiry reports, in particular that of Victoria Climbi The book identifies emotional and psychological development and abuse in specific age categories, 0-4, 5-12, and adolescence. Case studies and vignettes are used to highlight normal development and abusive situations. Comprehensive frameworks which are easily applicable to current practice, are provided, enabling workers to observe and accurately assess the quality of emotional and psychological life of children. Identifying Emotional and Psychological Abuse is key reading for health and social care professionals, as well as students with an interest in child protection.

Restoring My Soul

A Workbook for Finding and Living the Authentic Self

As infants who only understood oneness with the mother, we were surrounded by people, attitudes, traumas, relationship dynamics and all manner of parental projections with which we identified. We, therefore, hung our name tags on our parents' old unresolved and projected "stuff" in certain prescribed ways that formed a mask and a costume meant especially for us. Though we were mistaken in donning the mask and costume laid out for us, this mistake kept us attached to our caregivers, and/or helped us survive sometimes horrendous childhoods. But our survival technique has now become the albatross around our necks, while we walk the planks laid out for us by the roles we play. Do we imagine that our problems are really the result of some external force? Again, we are mistaken. Most of the problems that we have today have come about as a result of the role we play, its script and the choices we have made out of that identity. The solution lies in finding the Authentic Self. And yet, our world teaches us that finding the Authentic Self is, at best, a well-guarded secret passage of mythical proportions, and at worst, wasted time and effort, for it simply cannot be done. If we believe that, we are mistaken yet again. Not only is it possible to find and begin to live out of our authenticity, but it is the most hopeful journey we will ever take. It offers us the potential of a lasting peace, and yes, even joy. Working the pages of this book offers a practical yet deeply spiritual guide to finding and living the Authentic Self.

Life-Span Developmental Psychology

Personality and Socialization

Life-Span Developmental Psychology: Personality and Socialization presents papers on personality and socialization. The book discusses the history, theory, and psychological approaches of developmental psychology, with focus on socialization and personality development through the life span; personality dimensions; and theories of socialization and sex-role development. The text also describes the life-span perspective of creativity and cognitive styles; continuities in childhood and adult moral development revisited; and issues of intergenerational relations as they affect both individual socialization and continuity of culture. The interactional analysis of family attachments; social-learning theory as a framework for the study of adult personality development; person-perception research; and the perception of life-span development are also considered. The book further tackles the potential usefulness of the life-span developmental perspective in education; the strategies for enhancing human development over the life span through educational intervention; and some ecological implications for the organization of human intervention throughout the life span. Developmental psychologists, sociologists, gerontologists, and people involved in the study of child development will find the book invaluable.

Abuse and Violence Towards Young Children

Perspectives on Research and Policy

Levels of violence, abuse and neglect in early childhood are reported internationally as having reached epidemic proportions. The prevalence of all forms of violence to children has been difficult to establish, particularly in low and middle income countries. However, even in countries with a high GDP, the sexual abuse of children and young people by predatory adults may continue undetected for decades. In parts of Africa young children are mutilated and killed for religious reasons. Physical beatings that injure and break bones are still common in the Western world. Pornography and sexual abuse involving young children is propagated worldwide through the internet. The prevention of this violence will require substantial shifts in parental and public attitudes to children and the development and support of national systems of preventive legislation. The last 20 years has seen the emergence of a body of material which interrogates early childhood violence and neglect in a wider range of global settings, particularly those countries with a low GDP. This book aims to highlight important features of national and international initiatives which are rooted in findings from systematic research. The continued abuse and neglect of children has been attributed to social acceptance, not understanding the importance of reporting abuse, and the limitations of child welfare systems. This book will be of interest to practitioners in health care, education, and social work services, as well as field workers implementing programmes to address all forms of abuse at family, community and national level. This book was originally published as a special issue of Early Child Development and Care.

Catholic Family Services of Hamilton - Elder Abuse / Neglect

Provides intensive case coordination with an in-depth, personalized, flexible and creative approach. Specializes in elder abuse, including physical, psychological/verbal, financial, neglect or self-neglect. Service is free and confidential.

McMaster Children's Hospital - Child Advocacy and Assessment Program (CAAP) - Ron Joyce Children's Health Centre, Level 4

Offers assessment and consultation services, including:

* Child maltreatment assessment and impact of maltreatment assessment
* Parenting capacity assessment
* Intervention services (psychoeducation, counselling, treatment, etc.) for children and their parents/caregivers where a child has experienced some form of maltreatment (sexual, physical, emotional abuse, or neglect)
* Educational services

Good Shepherd Centres - Transitional Housing and Support Program - Women's Services

A program for women (and their children) who are survivors of violence and abuse, support workers will assist women in accessing services required to establish violence and abuse-free lives in their community.

Interval House of Hamilton - Flamborough Women's Resource Centre - Waterdown - 17 Main St

Provides support services for women including information and referrals, individual counselling, legal advocacy and support, women's groups, transitional support for abuse, employment counseling, and peer support.

Good Shepherd Centres - Learning Effective Anti-Violence in Families - Mary's Place

Program is aimed at children who witness domestic violence/woman abuse and provides women and children with a safe place to discuss the impact of abuse on their lives.

Radius Child and Youth Services

Major services:
* identify and remediate the traumatic impact of interpersonal abuse
* provide support, education and intervention to all non-offending family members or caregivers impacted by their child's trauma

* trauma assessments: determines the effects of interpersonal abuse, most effective treatment approach

* trauma treatment: following assessment, a client may enter into a recommended combination of individual and family therapy

* sexualized behaviour assessments and treatment for children under 12 years that are involved in inappropriate sexual behaviours

* risk assessments/treatment for sexually offending youths between the ages of 12-18 years, to understand the circumstances leading to the sexual offending behaviour(s), risks, strengths and treatment needs

* sibling incest assessments/treatment for families where sibling-on-sibling sexual abuse has occurred including a trauma assessment for the victimized child, a risk assessment

* for sexually abused and/or abusive children, adolescents and their families

* family and individual assessment, treatment and long term support

* group therapy for female and male victims, non-offending mothers, juvenile sex offenders and offending parents

* self help component for the offending adolescent and a comprehensive family assessment

Catholic Family Services of Hamilton - Elder Abuse / Neglect

Provides intensive case coordination with an in-depth, personalized, flexible and creative approach. Specializes in elder abuse, including physical, psychological/verbal, financial, neglect or self-neglect. Service is free and confidential.

Women's Centre of Halton (The) - One-on-one Support Services - Oakville

One-on-one support services include:

Mental health advocate:
* for women struggling with depression, anxiety or other undiagnosed mental health challenges and are in need of mental health supports

Drop-in support:
* open to all women who may be going through a difficult time and are facing challenges in their everyday life
* peer supporters provide one-on-one support by phone, email or in person

Abuse/crisis counselling:
* one-on-one counselling for women dealing with the effects of abuse
* women will receive emotional support and guidance throughout the healing process with a focus on concrete plans for future safety

Life skills coaching:
* women dealing with low self-esteem can receive up to eight personalized life coaching sessions
* learn skills to find empowerment and boost self-esteem

Legal clinic:
* volunteer lawyers provide a free half hour legal advice session

Income tax clinic:
* a drop-in first come, first served basis
* tax preparation for low income women that includes advice on rebates and benefits including the Canada Child Tax Benefit and health care benefits
* call or visit for financial eligibility
* clinics run from the end of February to the end of March

* counselling services offered in various languages, call ahead

Women's Centre of Hamilton

Offers information, referrals and support services while advocating towards systemic and policy change for women and their communities. Sign-up and drop-in groups also available.

Catholic Family Services of Hamilton - Woman Abuse Program

Offers trauma informed support to women and children who have been exposed to abuse, violence and/or trauma within a non-judgmental, inclusive environment in which they can increase their knowledge and understanding of woman abuse, and explore the options, resources and supports available.

Services offered:
Woman Abuse Counselling
Children's Counselling
Partner Assault Response (PAR)
Learning Effective Anti-Violence in Families (LEAF)

Catholic Family Services of Hamilton - Elder Abuse / Neglect

Provides intensive case coordination with an in-depth, personalized, flexible and creative approach. Specializes in elder abuse, including physical, psychological/verbal, financial, neglect or self-neglect. Service is free and confidential.

Thrive Child and Youth Trauma Services - Child and Youth Trauma Services Program

Program offers comprehensive assessment and specialized intervention and treatment for : children and youth up to age 18 who have been sexually victimized; children under 12 concerning sexual behaviour; and children under 12 who have engaged in intrafamilial sexual abuse (e.g. siblings, cousins etc.).