Blended Families - Separation & Divorce

Families come in many forms, with many different dynamics. The traditional idea of a family, for many, is changing into a more modern idea of what brings people together. The Vanier Institute of the Family’s report on separation and divorce in Canada estimates that up to 41% of marriages will end before their 30th year of marriage. The 2011 Canadian Census on families and living arrangements found that step-families account for about 1 in 8 coupled families with children. A blended family occurs when at least one, or both partners in a marriage already have children from a previous relationship, plus those two partners also have at least one child together. Considering the divorce rates, it is now not uncommon for families to become blended together post-divorce. Whatever the arrangement, the love and reward of a blended family can be wonderful, but it can also present challenges. Are you looking for advice on how to be better accepted by your step-child/children? Are you and your partner arguing over differing parenting styles - are they disciplining your child differently than you do? Are you and your spouse considering a child together, but you aren’t sure how it will affect your children? Perhaps your children are having trouble accepting a new baby into the family, or questioning their role now that a new child has arrived. Whatever your question or concern, we have the experts and resources you need to help navigate the potential challenges of a blended family.

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Ex-Etiquette for Weddings

The Blended Families' Guide to Tying the Knot

Weddings rarely go off without a hitch, and when ex-spouses, children from previous marriages, and multiple sets of in-laws are involved, couples definitely need brand-new guidelines to politely maneuver their nuptial plans. Whether you are remarrying and attempting to combine two families or a first-time bride or groom dealing with feuding divorced parents, Ex-Etiquette for Weddings helps you navigate a host of emotionally charged situations, such as: how to announce your engagement when your parents are divorced, how to tell your ex and children about your remarriage, how to set the budget when your divorced parents are at odds, how to word invitations for second marriages or marriages of children with divorced parents, how and where to seat ex-relatives at the reception. Recognizing that tension and anxiety are extremely high around weddings, especially when the family situation is complicated, Jann Blackstone-Ford and Sharyl Jupe offer trusted advice for raking a blissful trip down the aisle.

Divorce and Blended Families

Offers information and advice on divorce and blended families, including how to make household transitions more smooth.

Between Two Worlds

The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce

Offers an in-depth study of the impact of divorce on the emotional and spiritual lives of children, drawing on interviews with young adults from both intact and divorced families to demonstrate that even amicable divorces have lasting effects on children as they are confronted with different worlds, each with distinct moral values, traditions, and messages. Reprint. 25,000 first printing.

Helping Children Cope with Divorce

Handle children's problems at each stage of the divorce process Realistic, age-appropriate advice for the whole family. --Child Magazine Helping Children Cope with Divorce is an award-winning book that helps parents handle children's problems at each stage of the divorce process. This book includes vital information such as how to minimize stress during initial breakups and ultimate separation, and how to explain divorce so children don't blame themselves. The author also offers suggestions on how to protect children from parental hostilities and to navigate conflicts of loyalty and alliance.

The Field Day from the Black Lagoon

Another fun chapter book about field day and sports from the dynamic duo of Mike Thaler and Jared Lee - just in time for summer! There's just one week until field day at the Black Lagoon and Hubie is going to be ready! But getting in shape in one week is harder than he thinks -- especially when the workout kit he has seems to be for chickens. Why else would he be developing his pecs and thighs? When the two teams finally meet on the big day, there's more than winning at stake. Will their friendships survive the cut-throat water balloon tosses and three-legged races that await them?

The Good Divorce

A Psychoanalyst's Exploration of Separation, Divorce, and Childcare

Divorce is a complicated process and not a single event. It has major life implications and must be done right. In this regard, the good divorce is an ethical divorce. The Good Divorce does not follow the pattern of the ubiquitous self-help genre – over simplified and formulaic. Nevertheless, it is designed to be helpful by providing an in-depth exploration of the separation process, post-divorce adjustment, telling the children, caring for children from infants to teens, decision-making models, pathologies of divorce and, finally, hope and recovery through creating an important space for discovery. The author is a clinician and the book is written from the well of experience, scholarship and study that professional practice provides. Yet, it is not written academically and is intended for a general as well as professional audience. The reader will find the helpful inclusion of clinical examples and ample opportunities for reflection and deeper thinking into the many issues that arise in divorce for individuals and families. The essential premise is that the impact of divorce is worsened by the way it is handled rather than something necessarily inherent to the event itself. There is a required ethic, which when followed leads to the good divorce. Knowledge is power in this regard.

Divorce and Family Mediation

Models, Techniques, and Applications

Building on the success of their groundbreaking 1988 Divorce Mediation, Folberg et al. now present the latest state-of-the-art, comprehensive resource on family and divorce mediation. Paving the way for the field to establish its own distinct discipline and academic tradition, this authoritative volume offers chapters contributed by leading mediation researchers, trainers, and practitioners. Detailed are the theory behind mediation practice, the contemporary social and political context, and practical issues involved in mediating divorce and custody disputes with contemporary families. Authors also address intriguing questions about professional standards and where the field should go from here. A groundbreaking resource, this volume is indispensable for all mental health and legal professionals working with families in transition.

The Divorced Child

Strengthening Your Family Through the First Three Years of Separation

Argues that there is a three year window in which to acclimatize children to a new family life following divorce, uses case studies and new research to advise parents on the transition.

Ex-Etiquette for Holidays and Other Family Celebrations

Through realistic and trusted advice, this innovative new guide brings the celebration back to the holidays for blended families. Answering a myriad of questions unique to blended families, this comprehensive resource offers suggestions on how to determine who hosts milestone birthday parties, bar and bat mitzvahs, and Quinceaneras; coordinate who attends sporting events and concerts; and how to respectfully attend a former relative's funeral. A resource guide listing websites and books completes this new manners manual, which guides blended families from the first recitals and holidays apart to sporting events and graduations with fewer arguments and more respect.

The Puppy Place #1: Goldie

"Welcome to the Puppy Place--where every puppy finds a home! Charles and Lizzie Peterson love puppies. They want a puppy of their own more than just about anything. They know dogs are a lot of work. But their mom still doesn't think their family is ready for a puppy. Then, Goldie arrives. She is a sweet golden retriever that needs a home. Goldie is very young. She doesn't know how to be a good puppy yet. Will Charles and Lizzie be able to help her?"

Frequently Asked Questions About Divorce

Describes what happens when parents divorce, including what changes may occur within a family, and how a child will be legally and emotionally affected by the divorce.

Healthy divorce

Discusses the psychological stages of divorce, and provides advice on using mediation and other nonconfrontational techniques that are better for the emotional health of all parties, including the children

Divorce/Grief Support

Divorced Women

Family Adventures

Family Travel

Vegetarian Families

Family Constellations

Family Caregivers Support

Family Games

Blended Families

Roman Catholic Diocese of Hamilton (The) - Levels Separation and Divorce Support Program

Self-help groups available for Catholics who are separated, divorced or widowed.

Ontario. Ministry of the Attorney General, Court Services - Family Law Information Centre - Hamilton Central - Family Court

A drop-in service that provides legal and non-legal information, regarding family law issues, such as separation and divorce. Services include guides, procedures, information and referral services, Mandatory Information Program (MIP), court-connected mediation services (on-site and off-site) and an advice lawyer.

Dr. Bob Kemp Hospice - Supportive Care

The program offer compassionate, non-judgemental bereavement support, to individuals and families experiencing loss.

Ontario. Ministry of the Attorney General, Court Services - Family Court – Litigation Department - Hamilton Central - Family Court

Holds records of divorces obtained in the last 25 years. Records prior to 25 years are archived but still obtainable.

Roman Catholic Diocese of Hamilton (The) - Family Ministry Office

Offers support and encourages growth in family relationships primarily through education and self-help with a variety of volunteer-supported programs.

Mediation Centre of Hamilton

Offers comprehensive family mediation services to families experiencing separation, divorce and remarriage. Referral can be made by individuals involved, lawyers, the court, or agencies. Also provides child protection mediation for families involved with a Children's Aid Society. Also provides elder mediation services assisting families with challenges such as working out a plan of care for a elderly parent or addressing estate disputes.

Women's Centre of Halton (The) - Support Groups and Workshops - Oakville

Provides various support groups for women in crisis, distress or transition to effect positive change

Assertiveness Training:
* learn how to ask for and receive the things you want from life
* practice communication skills to be more assertive at work, in relationships and other areas of your life

Self-awareness group:
* participants learn how to identify harmful patterns and develop skills to improve relationships by communicating their needs more effectively without guilt, shame or fear

Depression and anxiety support group:
* come together with other women and learn tools to help cope with depression and anxiety

Self-esteem Series:
* focuses on making positive changes and facing challenges head on
* provides the opportunity to foster friendships, build confidence and promote positive thinking

Separation and Divorce:
* walks participants through the emotional stages of separating and divorcing an intimate partner (grief, anger, devastation)
in a safe, supportive caring group environment
* a chance to share concerns and connect with other women

Divorce Financial workshop:
* a divorce financial analyst discusses financial mistakes women can avoid
* topics include selling or keeping your home, support payments, income tax, banking and credit

Family Law 101:
* one day seminar introducing the basics of Family law and covering everything women need to know about separation and divorce
* topics include property division, spousal support, child custody and access, separation agreements and child support

Stress reduction:
* helps participants manage their stress and teaches strategies to work through the challenges of everyday life

Coffee and conversation:
* join the group for lighthearted conversation and snacks

Self care:
* a monthly drop-in workshop for participants to learn ways to practice self care in the midst of all of the chaos

Women's Centre of Halton (The) - Support Groups and Workshops - Oakville

Provides various support groups for women in crisis, distress or transition to effect positive change

Assertiveness Training:
* learn how to ask for and receive the things you want from life
* practice communication skills to be more assertive at work, in relationships and other areas of your life

Self-awareness group:
* participants learn how to identify harmful patterns and develop skills to improve relationships by communicating their needs more effectively without guilt, shame or fear

Depression and anxiety support group:
* come together with other women and learn tools to help cope with depression and anxiety

Self-esteem Series:
* focuses on making positive changes and facing challenges head on
* provides the opportunity to foster friendships, build confidence and promote positive thinking

Separation and Divorce:
* walks participants through the emotional stages of separating and divorcing an intimate partner (grief, anger, devastation)
in a safe, supportive caring group environment
* a chance to share concerns and connect with other women

Divorce Financial workshop:
* a divorce financial analyst discusses financial mistakes women can avoid
* topics include selling or keeping your home, support payments, income tax, banking and credit

Family Law 101:
* one day seminar introducing the basics of Family law and covering everything women need to know about separation and divorce
* topics include property division, spousal support, child custody and access, separation agreements and child support

Stress reduction:
* helps participants manage their stress and teaches strategies to work through the challenges of everyday life

Coffee and conversation:
* join the group for lighthearted conversation and snacks

Self care:
* a monthly drop-in workshop for participants to learn ways to practice self care in the midst of all of the chaos

Ontario. Ministry of the Attorney General, Court Services - On-Site Mediation Services - Hamilton Central - Family Court

Family mediation is a form of dispute resolution where a neutral third party, called a mediator, assists the disputing parties to reach an informed and voluntary agreement on issues such as how to separate, parenting plans, and child and spousal support.

* Available on-site at Family Court for parties on the day of their first appearance, case or settlement or trial management conference, or motion.
* Off-site mediation is also available for parties who need more time or who don't have court proceedings started. Contact us for more information.

Women's Centre of Halton (The) - Support Groups and Workshops - Oakville

Provides various support groups for women in crisis, distress or transition to effect positive change

Assertiveness Training:
* learn how to ask for and receive the things you want from life
* practice communication skills to be more assertive at work, in relationships and other areas of your life

Self-awareness group:
* participants learn how to identify harmful patterns and develop skills to improve relationships by communicating their needs more effectively without guilt, shame or fear

Depression and anxiety support group:
* come together with other women and learn tools to help cope with depression and anxiety

Self-esteem Series:
* focuses on making positive changes and facing challenges head on
* provides the opportunity to foster friendships, build confidence and promote positive thinking

Separation and Divorce:
* walks participants through the emotional stages of separating and divorcing an intimate partner (grief, anger, devastation)
in a safe, supportive caring group environment
* a chance to share concerns and connect with other women

Divorce Financial workshop:
* a divorce financial analyst discusses financial mistakes women can avoid
* topics include selling or keeping your home, support payments, income tax, banking and credit

Family Law 101:
* one day seminar introducing the basics of Family law and covering everything women need to know about separation and divorce
* topics include property division, spousal support, child custody and access, separation agreements and child support

Stress reduction:
* helps participants manage their stress and teaches strategies to work through the challenges of everyday life

Coffee and conversation:
* join the group for lighthearted conversation and snacks

Self care:
* a monthly drop-in workshop for participants to learn ways to practice self care in the midst of all of the chaos

Women's Centre of Halton (The) - Support Groups and Workshops - Oakville

Provides various support groups for women in crisis, distress or transition to effect positive change

Assertiveness Training:
* learn how to ask for and receive the things you want from life
* practice communication skills to be more assertive at work, in relationships and other areas of your life

Self-awareness group:
* participants learn how to identify harmful patterns and develop skills to improve relationships by communicating their needs more effectively without guilt, shame or fear

Depression and anxiety support group:
* come together with other women and learn tools to help cope with depression and anxiety

Self-esteem Series:
* focuses on making positive changes and facing challenges head on
* provides the opportunity to foster friendships, build confidence and promote positive thinking

Separation and Divorce:
* walks participants through the emotional stages of separating and divorcing an intimate partner (grief, anger, devastation)
in a safe, supportive caring group environment
* a chance to share concerns and connect with other women

Divorce Financial workshop:
* a divorce financial analyst discusses financial mistakes women can avoid
* topics include selling or keeping your home, support payments, income tax, banking and credit

Family Law 101:
* one day seminar introducing the basics of Family law and covering everything women need to know about separation and divorce
* topics include property division, spousal support, child custody and access, separation agreements and child support

Stress reduction:
* helps participants manage their stress and teaches strategies to work through the challenges of everyday life

Coffee and conversation:
* join the group for lighthearted conversation and snacks

Self care:
* a monthly drop-in workshop for participants to learn ways to practice self care in the midst of all of the chaos

AXIS Family Mediation

Provides court-connected on-site mediation services, comprehensive off-site mediation services, information & referral (IRC) services, and Mandatory Information Programs (MIP's)

Internship and volunteer opportunities available