Blended Families - Separation & Divorce

Families come in many forms, with many different dynamics. The traditional idea of a family, for many, is changing into a more modern idea of what brings people together. The Vanier Institute of the Family’s report on separation and divorce in Canada estimates that up to 41% of marriages will end before their 30th year of marriage. The 2011 Canadian Census on families and living arrangements found that step-families account for about 1 in 8 coupled families with children. A blended family occurs when at least one, or both partners in a marriage already have children from a previous relationship, plus those two partners also have at least one child together. Considering the divorce rates, it is now not uncommon for families to become blended together post-divorce. Whatever the arrangement, the love and reward of a blended family can be wonderful, but it can also present challenges. Are you looking for advice on how to be better accepted by your step-child/children? Are you and your partner arguing over differing parenting styles - are they disciplining your child differently than you do? Are you and your spouse considering a child together, but you aren’t sure how it will affect your children? Perhaps your children are having trouble accepting a new baby into the family, or questioning their role now that a new child has arrived. Whatever your question or concern, we have the experts and resources you need to help navigate the potential challenges of a blended family.

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Divorce and Blended Families

Offers information and advice on divorce and blended families, including how to make household transitions more smooth.

Ex-Etiquette for Weddings

The Blended Families' Guide to Tying the Knot

Weddings rarely go off without a hitch, and when ex-spouses, children from previous marriages, and multiple sets of in-laws are involved, couples definitely need brand-new guidelines to politely maneuver their nuptial plans. Whether you are remarrying and attempting to combine two families or a first-time bride or groom dealing with feuding divorced parents, Ex-Etiquette for Weddings helps you navigate a host of emotionally charged situations, such as: how to announce your engagement when your parents are divorced, how to tell your ex and children about your remarriage, how to set the budget when your divorced parents are at odds, how to word invitations for second marriages or marriages of children with divorced parents, how and where to seat ex-relatives at the reception. Recognizing that tension and anxiety are extremely high around weddings, especially when the family situation is complicated, Jann Blackstone-Ford and Sharyl Jupe offer trusted advice for raking a blissful trip down the aisle.

Just Tell Me What to Say

Simple Scripts for Perplexed Parents

Parents are often perplexed by their children's typical behaviors and inevitable questions. This down-to-earth guide provides "Tips and Scripts" for handling everything from sibling rivalry and the food wars to questions about death, divorce, sex, and "whyyyy?" Betsy Brown Braun blends humor with her expertise as a child development specialist, popular parent educator, and mother of triplets. Whatever your dilemma or child's question—from "How did the baby get in your tummy?" to "What does 'dead' mean?" to "It's not fair!"—Betsy offers the tools and confidence you need to explain the world to your growing child.

Healthy divorce

Discusses the psychological stages of divorce, and provides advice on using mediation and other nonconfrontational techniques that are better for the emotional health of all parties, including the children

Remarried with Children

Ten Secrets for Successfully Blending and Extending Your Family

Draws on the author's experiences as a stepparent, as well as the expertise of clergy, psychologists, and counselors, to provide guidelines on how to overcome the expectations, conflicts, and loyalty issues of a blended family.

I Do, Part 2

How do you and your ex raise happy kids? You learn how to be one big happy family.When you share custody of children, divorce can be a short-term tension headache, or a lifelong migraine. If you don't want to blow all your money on pills, the two of you need to get along.I Do, Part 2 is a funny, honest trounce through life post-divorce, helping people who produced a child together, then split, learn to navigate their complicated new lives.

Finding Your Place

A Teen Guide to Life in a Blended Family

Explains the complex emotions and relationships involved in the remarriage of a parent and examines relationships with stepparents and stepsiblings.

Divorce and Family Mediation

Models, Techniques, and Applications

Building on the success of their groundbreaking 1988 Divorce Mediation, Folberg et al. now present the latest state-of-the-art, comprehensive resource on family and divorce mediation. Paving the way for the field to establish its own distinct discipline and academic tradition, this authoritative volume offers chapters contributed by leading mediation researchers, trainers, and practitioners. Detailed are the theory behind mediation practice, the contemporary social and political context, and practical issues involved in mediating divorce and custody disputes with contemporary families. Authors also address intriguing questions about professional standards and where the field should go from here. A groundbreaking resource, this volume is indispensable for all mental health and legal professionals working with families in transition.

Frequently Asked Questions About Divorce

Describes what happens when parents divorce, including what changes may occur within a family, and how a child will be legally and emotionally affected by the divorce.

Why Do Families Change?

Our First Talk About Separation and Divorce

A nonfiction picture book that introduces very young children to the concept of separation and divorce in a reassuring and straightforward way.

Parenting Through Divorce

Helping Your Children Thrive During and After the Split

Previously published in 2009 under the title Still a family.

The 7 Fatal Mistakes Divorced and Separated Parents Make:

Strategies for Raising Healthy Children of Divorce and Conflict

This book is a crucial resource for families that are divorced, separated, considering divorce or that have never been married who want to raise the healthiest children possible. Inside you will find practical strategies and more than 35 exercises to assist you in being the best parent possible during this difficult time for your family. This book provides guidelines and strategies that will assist you in minimizing the impact of your circumstances on your child. You deserve to read this book and your child deserves a parent who reads this book. Shannon Rios reviewed 50 other books to write this book and has worked with 1000s of families over the last 12 years. She teaches the state mandated course "Coparenting After Divorce" for three counties in Colorado and previously taught in MN. In the book, Shannon shares many stories and insights from her own experience growing up in a family of conflict.

Divorce/Grief Support

Divorced Women

Family Travel

Family Adventures

Vegetarian Families

Family Constellations

Family Games

Family Caregivers Support

Blended Families

Roman Catholic Diocese of Hamilton (The) - Levels Separation and Divorce Support Program

Self-help groups available for Catholics who are separated, divorced or widowed.

Dr. Bob Kemp Hospice - Supportive Care

The program offer compassionate, non-judgemental bereavement support, to individuals and families experiencing loss.

Ontario. Ministry of the Attorney General, Court Services - Family Court – Litigation Department - Hamilton Central - Family Court

Holds records of divorces obtained in the last 25 years. Records prior to 25 years are archived but still obtainable.

Roman Catholic Diocese of Hamilton (The) - Family Ministry Office

Offers support and encourages growth in family relationships primarily through education and self-help with a variety of volunteer-supported programs.

Ontario. Ministry of the Attorney General, Court Services - Family Law Information Centre - Hamilton Central - Family Court

A drop-in service that provides legal and non-legal information, regarding family law issues, such as separation and divorce. Services include guides, procedures, information and referral services, Mandatory Information Program (MIP), court-connected mediation services (on-site and off-site) and an advice lawyer.

Mediation Centre of Hamilton

Offers comprehensive family mediation services to families experiencing separation, divorce and remarriage. Referral can be made by individuals involved, lawyers, the court, or agencies. Also provides child protection mediation for families involved with a Children's Aid Society. Also provides elder mediation services assisting families with challenges such as working out a plan of care for a elderly parent or addressing estate disputes.

Ontario. Ministry of the Attorney General, Court Services - On-Site Mediation Services - Hamilton Central - Family Court

Family mediation is a form of dispute resolution where a neutral third party, called a mediator, assists the disputing parties to reach an informed and voluntary agreement on issues such as how to separate, parenting plans, and child and spousal support.

* Available on-site at Family Court for parties on the day of their first appearance, case or settlement or trial management conference, or motion.
* Off-site mediation is also available for parties who need more time or who don't have court proceedings started. Contact us for more information.

The Women's Centre of Halton - Support Groups and Workshops - Oakville

The centre provides support groups for women in crisis, distress or transition to effect positive change.

Assertiveness Training:
* learn how to ask for and receive the things you want from life
* practice communication skills to be more assertive at work, in relationships and other areas of your life

Self-awareness group:
* participants learn how to identify harmful patterns and develop skills to improve relationships by communicating their needs more effectively without guilt, shame or fear

Depression and anxiety support group:
* come together with other women and learn tools to help cope with depression and anxiety

Self-esteem Series:
* focuses on making positive changes and facing challenges head on
* provides the opportunity to foster friendships, build confidence and promote positive thinking

Separation and Divorce:
* walks participants through the emotional stages of separating and divorcing an intimate partner (grief, anger, devastation)
in a safe, supportive caring group environment
* a chance to share concerns and connect with other women

Divorce Financial workshop:
* a divorce financial analyst discusses financial mistakes women can avoid
* topics include selling or keeping your home, support payments, income tax, banking and credit

Family Law 101:
* one day seminar introducing the basics of Family law and covering everything women need to know about separation and divorce
* topics include property division, spousal support, child custody and access, separation agreements and child support

Stress reduction:
* helps participants manage their stress and teaches strategies to work through the challenges of everyday life

Coffee and conversation:
* join the group for lighthearted conversation and snacks

Self care:
* a monthly drop-in workshop for participants to learn ways to practice self care in the midst of all of the chaos

The Women's Centre of Halton - Support Groups and Workshops - Oakville

The centre provides support groups for women in crisis, distress or transition to effect positive change.

Assertiveness Training:
* learn how to ask for and receive the things you want from life
* practice communication skills to be more assertive at work, in relationships and other areas of your life

Self-awareness group:
* participants learn how to identify harmful patterns and develop skills to improve relationships by communicating their needs more effectively without guilt, shame or fear

Depression and anxiety support group:
* come together with other women and learn tools to help cope with depression and anxiety

Self-esteem Series:
* focuses on making positive changes and facing challenges head on
* provides the opportunity to foster friendships, build confidence and promote positive thinking

Separation and Divorce:
* walks participants through the emotional stages of separating and divorcing an intimate partner (grief, anger, devastation)
in a safe, supportive caring group environment
* a chance to share concerns and connect with other women

Divorce Financial workshop:
* a divorce financial analyst discusses financial mistakes women can avoid
* topics include selling or keeping your home, support payments, income tax, banking and credit

Family Law 101:
* one day seminar introducing the basics of Family law and covering everything women need to know about separation and divorce
* topics include property division, spousal support, child custody and access, separation agreements and child support

Stress reduction:
* helps participants manage their stress and teaches strategies to work through the challenges of everyday life

Coffee and conversation:
* join the group for lighthearted conversation and snacks

Self care:
* a monthly drop-in workshop for participants to learn ways to practice self care in the midst of all of the chaos

The Women's Centre of Halton - Support Groups and Workshops - Oakville

The centre provides support groups for women in crisis, distress or transition to effect positive change.

Assertiveness Training:
* learn how to ask for and receive the things you want from life
* practice communication skills to be more assertive at work, in relationships and other areas of your life

Self-awareness group:
* participants learn how to identify harmful patterns and develop skills to improve relationships by communicating their needs more effectively without guilt, shame or fear

Depression and anxiety support group:
* come together with other women and learn tools to help cope with depression and anxiety

Self-esteem Series:
* focuses on making positive changes and facing challenges head on
* provides the opportunity to foster friendships, build confidence and promote positive thinking

Separation and Divorce:
* walks participants through the emotional stages of separating and divorcing an intimate partner (grief, anger, devastation)
in a safe, supportive caring group environment
* a chance to share concerns and connect with other women

Divorce Financial workshop:
* a divorce financial analyst discusses financial mistakes women can avoid
* topics include selling or keeping your home, support payments, income tax, banking and credit

Family Law 101:
* one day seminar introducing the basics of Family law and covering everything women need to know about separation and divorce
* topics include property division, spousal support, child custody and access, separation agreements and child support

Stress reduction:
* helps participants manage their stress and teaches strategies to work through the challenges of everyday life

Coffee and conversation:
* join the group for lighthearted conversation and snacks

Self care:
* a monthly drop-in workshop for participants to learn ways to practice self care in the midst of all of the chaos

AXIS Family Mediation

Provides court-connected on-site mediation services, comprehensive off-site mediation services, information & referral (IRC) services, and Mandatory Information Programs (MIP's)

Internship and volunteer opportunities available

Catholic Family Services of Hamilton - Individual and Family Counselling Services

Couple, family, individual, and group counselling services provided on a sliding scale. Issues addressed may include: Couple/relationship conflict * separation * reconciliation * family violence * sexual abuse * parent-child difficulties * adolescent adjustment * problems of the elderly * emotional stress and individual adjustment problems. Also provides information and referral services.

People applying for counselling for the first time should first contact the Walk In Counselling Clinic. The walk-in clinic provides solution-oriented counselling sessions with a professional counsellor. Participants who feel they need more assistance may return to the walk-in clinic for another session, or arrange ongoing counselling.