Infidelity - Separation & Divorce

Relationships between couples take many different forms. Some are casual, some are partnerships, and some are marriages. Same-sex and opposite-sex couples typically enter a relationship with a defined understanding of exclusivity - whether or not they will engage in romantic, emotional, and/or sexual relations solely with each other, or be open to doing so with other people while in a relationship together. If a couple has chosen to be in an exclusive relationship, and one partner has a sexual or emotional encounter or relationship with someone else, it is referred to as infidelity, cheating, or being unfaithful to the other partner. This can lead to an unhappy or volatile relationship, and in some cases, separation or divorce. There are many resources available to help couples facing infidelity. Are you currently in a relationship that is experiencing difficulties due to infidelity? Would like the guidance of a professional to try and avoid the breakdown of the relationship? Or have you decided to initiate a separation or divorce because of infidelity, and you would like legal guidance and information. Self-help books, seminars, relationship counseling and legal counsel are all available in your community, and we have the resources you need to find them.

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Hope For the Separated

Wounded Marriages Can Be Healed

The unfortunate reality is that Christians are separating and divorcing at the same rate as the unbelieving world. But does separation have to mean the end? You may not feel like reconciling. You may not see hope for a reunion. But the biblical ideal for a separated couple is reconciliation. So how do you do it? When doors slam and angry words fly, when things just aren't working out, and even when your spouse has abandoned your trust, there is hope. Hope for the Separated will show you through God's Word that your marriage can be restored. Recognizing that restoration will not happen for everyone, Dr. Chapman also gives insightful advice for those who experience the pain of divorce.

One More Try

What to Do When Your Marriage Is Falling Apart

When doors slam and angry words fly, when things just aren't working out, and even when your spouse has destroyed your trust, there is still hope. If you feel like your marriage is near the breaking point, or even if you've already separated, Gary Chapman will show you how you can give your marriage one more try. One More Try will help you . . . Take the next step when blindsided in marriage; Discover healthy ways to manage frustration and anger; Effectively deal with loneliness; Renew hope and trust in your spouse; and Rebuild your marriage from the ground up. Distress or even separation do not necessarily mean divorce is imminent. Matter of fact, it’s possible that these may even lead to a restored, enriched, growing marriage. The outcome of this challenging time is determined solely by the individuals involved. If you’re willing to make the most of that process, then begin the journey with confidence as Gary walks you step-by-step towards healing and hope. *The content of this book has been significantly revised and updated from its previous title Hope for the Separated.*

A Couple's Guide to a Growing Marriage

A Bible Study

From #1 New York Times bestselling author Gary Chapman Every marriage is a growing marriage. The real question is: are you growing closer together or further apart? If you’re content with the latter, don’t change a thing. However, if you desire the kind of marriage that keeps getting better, then you’ll need to be intentional. This book will start you in the right direction. A Couple’s Guide to a Growing Marriage teaches you how to... Invite God into the details of your life and marriage Listen in ways that deepen intimacy and friendship Understand your spouse and be understood Keep your love fresh and mutually engaging Manage conflict constructively, not destructively In both private and shared-time exercises, you'll explore Bible study, prayer, and Scripture memory. You will learn how to have a brief daily sharing time with your spouse, and you will cultivate deeper friendships with others through group activities. So much more than a personal and group study, A Couple's Guide to a Growing Marriage Bible Study will teach you to share your life more fully with God, and as your relationship with God deepens, so will your relationship as a couple.

The State of Affairs

Rethinking Infidelity

Iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity Esther Perel returns with a provocative look at relationships through the lens of infidelity. An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honored taboo—universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat—even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book. For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage—with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationships—what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations. Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.”

Love Warrior

A Memoir

"Just when Glennon Doyle Melton was beginning to feel she had it all figured out--three happy children, a doting spouse, and a writing career so successful that her first book catapulted to the top of the New York Times bestseller list--her husband revealed his infidelity and she was forced to realize that nothing was as it seemed. A recovering alcoholic and bulimic, Glennon found that rock bottom was a familiar place. In the midst of crisis, she knew to hold on to what she discovered in recovery: that her deepest pain has always held within it an invitation to a richer life"--Dust jacket flap.

Surviving Separation And Divorce

Reclaim you life and your self! The weeks following your separation may prove to be the most difficult weeks of your life. But with a little help and support, you'll find the strength you need to get through the divorce process and move on. Author Loriann Hoff Oberlin, M.S., understands the rough road to starting over. A survivor herself, she shares her personal experience as well as her professional expertise as she shows you how to rebuild your life, step by step. Surviving Separation and Divorce, 2nd Edition provides you with markers for the legally and emotionally taxing journey ahead, including how to: Rebuild your self-esteem Explore reconciliation--or not Help your children get through the transition Deal with lawyers and the court system Manage money and finances Return to and thrive in the workforce Develop an active social life Consider remarriage With this completely revised and updated classic at your side, you'll summon your inner strength, let go of the past, and build a better future--starting today.

Split

A Memoir of Divorce

?Not only funny, it?s also fully triumphant...a heartbreaking pleasure to read.?(Elle) Suzanne Finnamore didn?t see it coming. Well, she saw some things?for example, a cocktail napkin on which her husband had scribbled a Cole Porter love song and an indecipherable name?but she refused to acknowledge it. She was busy tending to their son and creating the perfect home. Until the night it all imploded. ?I deserve happiness,? he said, which apparently translated into ousting her from his life. At once funny, sad, and unflinchingly fierce, this memoir will resonate with anyone who has endured the end of a relationship?and come out on the other side changed.

Clinical Social Work

Definition, Practice, and Vision

First published in 1996. Routledge is an imprint of Taylor & Francis, an informa company.

When Homosexuality Hits Home

What to Do When a Loved One Says, "I'm Gay"

"There's something I need to tell you...I'm gay." These are hard words to hear from a beloved family member. But as hard as they are to hear, they are also hard for the same-sex-attracted person to utter. No matter the relationship--parent, child, grandparent, spouse, sibling, or other, that admission will likely mark a change in the way you and your loved one understand each other. These can be difficult waters to navigate, but Joe Dallas knows the rough waters firsthand and offers answers to the questions you need answered. How do I show my love for my same-sex attracted family member and yet remain faithful to the Bible's admonitions about homosexuality? Should I attend my loved one's gay wedding? What caused his or her homosexuality? Am I to blame? Can people change their sexual orientation? From his many years of helping families answer tough questions about homosexuality, Joe Dallas offers you sound, compassionate, and biblically accurate advice as you take a journey you never anticipated. Revised edition.

Love Must Be Tough

New Hope for Marriages in Crisis

You've forgiven a thousand times. You've bent over backwards to make your partner feel loved and accepted. But the only reward for your loyalty has been anger, indifference, infidelity, or abuse. Your spouse may even be ready to walk out the door. Do you feel like all is lost? Are you ready to give up? There IS still hope. Dr. James Dobson's “tough love” principles have proven to be uniquely valuable and effective. Unlike most approaches to marriage crisis, the strategy in this groundbreaking classic does not require the willing cooperation of both spouses. Love Must Be Tough offers the guidance that gives you the best chance of rekindling romance, renewing your relationship, and drawing your partner back into your arms.

NOT "Just Friends"

Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity

One of the world’s leading experts on infidelity provides a step-by-step guide through the process of infidelity—from suspicion and revelation to healing, and provides profound, practical guidance to prevent infidelity and, if it happens, recover and heal from it. You’re right to be cautious when you hear these words: “I’m telling you, we’re just friends.” Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.

Fight Your Way to a Better Marriage

How Healthy Conflict Can Take You to Deeper Levels of Intimacy

In this counter intuitive book, author Dr. Greg Smalley maintains that fighting is actually good for a marriage. Couples will learn how to fight their way to a better marriage, using the skills, concepts, and exercises shared in this remarkable book.

Divorce Recovery

Divorce Support for Women

Surviving Divorce

Dating After Divorce

Divorce Recovery for Women

Divorce Support for Men

Roman Catholic Diocese of Hamilton (The) - Levels Separation and Divorce Support Program

Self-help groups available for Catholics who are separated, divorced or widowed.

Dr. Bob Kemp Hospice - Supportive Care

The program offer compassionate, non-judgemental bereavement support, to individuals and families experiencing loss.

Mediation Centre of Hamilton

Offers comprehensive family mediation services to families experiencing separation, divorce and remarriage. Referral can be made by individuals involved, lawyers, the court, or agencies. Also provides child protection mediation for families involved with a Children's Aid Society. Also provides elder mediation services assisting families with challenges such as working out a plan of care for a elderly parent or addressing estate disputes.

Women's Centre of Halton (The) - Support Groups and Workshops - Oakville

Provides various support groups for women in crisis, distress or transition to effect positive change

Assertiveness Training:
* learn how to ask for and receive the things you want from life
* practice communication skills to be more assertive at work, in relationships and other areas of your life

Self-awareness group:
* participants learn how to identify harmful patterns and develop skills to improve relationships by communicating their needs more effectively without guilt, shame or fear

Depression and anxiety support group:
* come together with other women and learn tools to help cope with depression and anxiety

Self-esteem Series:
* focuses on making positive changes and facing challenges head on
* provides the opportunity to foster friendships, build confidence and promote positive thinking

Separation and Divorce:
* walks participants through the emotional stages of separating and divorcing an intimate partner (grief, anger, devastation)
in a safe, supportive caring group environment
* a chance to share concerns and connect with other women

Divorce Financial workshop:
* a divorce financial analyst discusses financial mistakes women can avoid
* topics include selling or keeping your home, support payments, income tax, banking and credit

Family Law 101:
* one day seminar introducing the basics of Family law and covering everything women need to know about separation and divorce
* topics include property division, spousal support, child custody and access, separation agreements and child support

Stress reduction:
* helps participants manage their stress and teaches strategies to work through the challenges of everyday life

Coffee and conversation:
* join the group for lighthearted conversation and snacks

Self care:
* a monthly drop-in workshop for participants to learn ways to practice self care in the midst of all of the chaos

Women's Centre of Halton (The) - Support Groups and Workshops - Oakville

Provides various support groups for women in crisis, distress or transition to effect positive change

Assertiveness Training:
* learn how to ask for and receive the things you want from life
* practice communication skills to be more assertive at work, in relationships and other areas of your life

Self-awareness group:
* participants learn how to identify harmful patterns and develop skills to improve relationships by communicating their needs more effectively without guilt, shame or fear

Depression and anxiety support group:
* come together with other women and learn tools to help cope with depression and anxiety

Self-esteem Series:
* focuses on making positive changes and facing challenges head on
* provides the opportunity to foster friendships, build confidence and promote positive thinking

Separation and Divorce:
* walks participants through the emotional stages of separating and divorcing an intimate partner (grief, anger, devastation)
in a safe, supportive caring group environment
* a chance to share concerns and connect with other women

Divorce Financial workshop:
* a divorce financial analyst discusses financial mistakes women can avoid
* topics include selling or keeping your home, support payments, income tax, banking and credit

Family Law 101:
* one day seminar introducing the basics of Family law and covering everything women need to know about separation and divorce
* topics include property division, spousal support, child custody and access, separation agreements and child support

Stress reduction:
* helps participants manage their stress and teaches strategies to work through the challenges of everyday life

Coffee and conversation:
* join the group for lighthearted conversation and snacks

Self care:
* a monthly drop-in workshop for participants to learn ways to practice self care in the midst of all of the chaos

Roman Catholic Diocese of Hamilton (The) - Family Ministry Office

Offers support and encourages growth in family relationships primarily through education and self-help with a variety of volunteer-supported programs.

Women's Centre of Halton (The) - Support Groups and Workshops - Oakville

Provides various support groups for women in crisis, distress or transition to effect positive change

Assertiveness Training:
* learn how to ask for and receive the things you want from life
* practice communication skills to be more assertive at work, in relationships and other areas of your life

Self-awareness group:
* participants learn how to identify harmful patterns and develop skills to improve relationships by communicating their needs more effectively without guilt, shame or fear

Depression and anxiety support group:
* come together with other women and learn tools to help cope with depression and anxiety

Self-esteem Series:
* focuses on making positive changes and facing challenges head on
* provides the opportunity to foster friendships, build confidence and promote positive thinking

Separation and Divorce:
* walks participants through the emotional stages of separating and divorcing an intimate partner (grief, anger, devastation)
in a safe, supportive caring group environment
* a chance to share concerns and connect with other women

Divorce Financial workshop:
* a divorce financial analyst discusses financial mistakes women can avoid
* topics include selling or keeping your home, support payments, income tax, banking and credit

Family Law 101:
* one day seminar introducing the basics of Family law and covering everything women need to know about separation and divorce
* topics include property division, spousal support, child custody and access, separation agreements and child support

Stress reduction:
* helps participants manage their stress and teaches strategies to work through the challenges of everyday life

Coffee and conversation:
* join the group for lighthearted conversation and snacks

Self care:
* a monthly drop-in workshop for participants to learn ways to practice self care in the midst of all of the chaos

Women's Centre of Halton (The) - Support Groups and Workshops - Oakville

Provides various support groups for women in crisis, distress or transition to effect positive change

Assertiveness Training:
* learn how to ask for and receive the things you want from life
* practice communication skills to be more assertive at work, in relationships and other areas of your life

Self-awareness group:
* participants learn how to identify harmful patterns and develop skills to improve relationships by communicating their needs more effectively without guilt, shame or fear

Depression and anxiety support group:
* come together with other women and learn tools to help cope with depression and anxiety

Self-esteem Series:
* focuses on making positive changes and facing challenges head on
* provides the opportunity to foster friendships, build confidence and promote positive thinking

Separation and Divorce:
* walks participants through the emotional stages of separating and divorcing an intimate partner (grief, anger, devastation)
in a safe, supportive caring group environment
* a chance to share concerns and connect with other women

Divorce Financial workshop:
* a divorce financial analyst discusses financial mistakes women can avoid
* topics include selling or keeping your home, support payments, income tax, banking and credit

Family Law 101:
* one day seminar introducing the basics of Family law and covering everything women need to know about separation and divorce
* topics include property division, spousal support, child custody and access, separation agreements and child support

Stress reduction:
* helps participants manage their stress and teaches strategies to work through the challenges of everyday life

Coffee and conversation:
* join the group for lighthearted conversation and snacks

Self care:
* a monthly drop-in workshop for participants to learn ways to practice self care in the midst of all of the chaos

Ontario. Ministry of the Attorney General, Court Services - Family Law Information Centre - Hamilton Central - Family Court

A drop-in service that provides legal and non-legal information, regarding family law issues, such as separation and divorce. Services include guides, procedures, information and referral services, Mandatory Information Program (MIP), court-connected mediation services (on-site and off-site) and an advice lawyer.

Ontario. Ministry of the Attorney General, Court Services - Family Court – Litigation Department - Hamilton Central - Family Court

Holds records of divorces obtained in the last 25 years. Records prior to 25 years are archived but still obtainable.

Ontario. Ministry of the Attorney General, Court Services - On-Site Mediation Services - Hamilton Central - Family Court

Family mediation is a form of dispute resolution where a neutral third party, called a mediator, assists the disputing parties to reach an informed and voluntary agreement on issues such as how to separate, parenting plans, and child and spousal support.

* Available on-site at Family Court for parties on the day of their first appearance, case or settlement or trial management conference, or motion.
* Off-site mediation is also available for parties who need more time or who don't have court proceedings started. Contact us for more information.

AXIS Family Mediation

Provides court-connected on-site mediation services, comprehensive off-site mediation services, information & referral (IRC) services, and Mandatory Information Programs (MIP's)

Internship and volunteer opportunities available